February 21, 2013

INTJ...

I came across this little blurb about Introverts and, since I am one, I of course found it interesting.  Thus, I had to share.   It's '10 Myths About Introverts'...

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

I copy and pasted from this site  in case you would like to go check out the whole thing and to also explain why it has a black background.   

Also, there is This test from HumanMetrics.  Just answer 75 yes or no questions and it will give you your personality code. The four letters tell you whether you are...Introverted or Extroverted.  Intuitive or Sensing.  Thinking or Feeling.  Judging or Perceiving.

It will also tell you your percentage of one over the other.  I tested as INTJ.  Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging.  My biggest percentage difference was between Introvert and Extrovert a difference of 78%.  My closest was between Thinking and Feeling a difference of only 1%.  The other two were floating around the 30-ish% mark.   

So those of you that think I am weird or rude or flake out on plans too often, hopefully this will help explain why I am that way.  I've always thought of myself as an extroverted Introvert.  I like to travel and see new things and have fun with other people.  I guess it's just that 22% difference trying to get out that explains my extroverted tendencies.  But I am happy to get home and get comfy and lay in bed and read a book.  I like being an Introvert.  I like my own little bubble of life, I'm comfortable and happy in there.  

Jasey is completely opposite.  He is as much of an Extrovert as I am an Introvert, but it works for us.  Could you imagine if we were both Introverts and we were both home all the time?  

I would kill him.  

I can't even imagine being an Extrovert so I can't come up with any fun puny things to say about it.  But I'm sure it too would end in the demise of one of us, or at least a whole lot of fighting and a divorce.  And that is just no fun.

So, even though we sometimes get annoyed with how the other spends their time it works for us and we are happy.  As promised in our vows we respect and accept the people we are and realize that our ways are not the only way.  

So go check out your personality type are and accept who you are, no matter what it is!






Today I am thankful for the past long weekend and the fact that it is already Thursday.  I wish all weeks were like this!

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